Post Wedding Round-up

It's been a while since I've had a post. So it's time to bring y'all up to date again (I seem to have to do this a lot, huh?).

Wedding Prep
Our wedding went off mostly without a hitch. The day before we spent somewhere around 12 hours setting up the hall that we used for the wedding. And every single decoration was diy. It helped that just about every single groomsmen was a handyman.

The groomsmen (l to r) Daniel, Tall Chris, Brian, and Isaac,
hang fluff balls.
(Photo by Mark Morgan)



Christina, Yakira, Charis, Deanna, and I worked on centerpiece
bowls.
(Photo by Mark Morgan)

 I wanna give out props to the best man, Brian, who did every single thing Sarai, my maid of honor and wedding coordinator, asked him to do. This is included putting together paper lanterns, making puff balls, hanging both of the aforementioned from the ceiling all around the hall, spending hours up on a ladder, hanging streamers and giving lots of man advice on how things should go.

The girls were great too. They helped put together centerpieces and two bridesmaids, Jaimie and Bethany, designed the flower scheme on the fence that separated the ceremony and reception areas. Brendan's family arrived the night before all the way from Rome, Georgia and spent the whole day helping with us. They helped hang things, arrange centerpieces, and make fluff balls along with going out and getting us lunch.

Jaimie and Bethany, my two closest friends from nursing school, helped me the most by helping me keep my sanity. Toward the end of the day, I was starting to lose it.

Various members of the bridal party, their spouses, and families came and went during the day.  All the groomsmen but one and the photographer all traveled up from Alabama (Brendan knew them all from his days at Auburn University in Alabama). I think all-in-all we had over 30 helpers to set up for the wedding.

In the end the finished product came out great, and not a single bit of it was done by anyone other than ourselves.



The finished product for the ceremony.
(Photo by Sarai Goldsberry)

Best Day Ever!

We went with a Tangled theme for the wedding. I personally love this movie and cannot get enough of it. It's just the kid in me. So, details that every girl loves to know.

The colors: Lavender and yellow, based off of Rapunzel's dress, the kingdom flags, and the floating lanterns.

Photo by Betsy Weldy

The Dress: Rapunzel had lots of flowers in her hair. I had them down the side of my dress and on my sleeves. It had a corset back which originally came with a white tie. We switched it out to a long yellow ribbon to symbolize Rapunzel's hair. The veil my sister Keturah and I handmade. And when I say handmade, I mean literally sitting for about a week with a needle and thread and hand sewing 8 yards of lace to a stretch of silk tulle. It was then attached to a tiara because Rapunzel was princess and every girl is a princess on her wedding day, right? All in all it was a princess cut ball gown that had a cathedral length train and ribbon, modest sleeves and neckline, and a veil reminiscent of Kate Middleton's on her marriage to Prince William (because who didn't love Kate's veil?).

Maid of Honor bouquet
(Photo by Betsy Weldy)

The flowers: The basic theme of Tangled is that this drop of sun fell from the heavens and from it grew a single flower. So we have the sun and flowers so...SUNFLOWERS! I found a bouquet via Google (which was actually really hard to do since not many people use them) and then had my local florist shop recreate various versions of it for my maid  of honor, bridesmaids, groomsmen, my handsome groom, the best man and the parents. All in all the came out great and mine in currently drying out in my apartment. I think I'm going to get some clear Christmas ornament and put the petals inside as my way of preserving it.

Photo by Betsy Weldy

The rings: My engagement ring is a pretty unique ring...and in saying that it was virtually impossible to find a wedding band for it? Solution: most jewelry shops will custom make a band for you. My engagement ring is a Tolkowsky that doesn't yet have a band made for the designer by it. And that's where Kay's Jewelers came in. It meant giving up my ring for about two months (which, if you've had it happen, you know is not an easy thing to do) but the finished product was stunning. As for Brendan, he chose a simple white gold band since he's the kind of guy that doesn't like any kind of frills.

The bridesmaid dresses: These were all handmade by my sister Keturah from a pattern called the Jamie Dress (not sure of the designer). We found some really cute swirly hearts fabric at the local fabric store. With six bridesmaids we ended up buying pretty much all of the fabric they had! The maid of honor's dress was done in a darker shade of purple with the same pattern, resembling a bit more of the kingdom flags than Rapunzel's dress. Then we got them all matching wedge sandals from Payless and these girls were gorgeous!


The gorgeous maids (l to r):
Melody, Keturah, Deanna, Caitlyn, Bethany, Jaimie, and Sarai
(Photo by Mark Morgan)

The boys: Flynn Ryder sported khakis, a blue vest, and a white button up all throughout the movie. Our boys were decked out in similar outfits. We had them buy their suits, rather than deal with a bridal boutique, from Macy's. They wore light gray vests and pants and lavender shirts to give them a Flynn Ryder feel.


The gentlemen (l to r)
Brian, Cameron, Daniel, Tall Chris, Big Chris, Zeke, and Isaac (not pictured)
(Photo by Mark Morgan)



Eliana and Sofia
(Photo by Caitlyn Maloney)

The flower girls: Their dresses were made by my mom since she makes most of their clothes anyway. These little cuties are my youngest sisters. The dresses were made from a fairytale dress pattern in lavender and yellow. Their adorable flower wreaths came from Etsy. And, to match Rapunzel, we had them walk down the aisle barefoot. All in all these little cuties stole the show.

The ring bearer: Unfortunately, I can't seem to find a picture of our adorable ring bearer, Marcus (our wedding pictures aren't in yet). But we dressed him up a yellow vest, shorts, bowtie and newsie cap paired with a white shirt and barefeet just like our little flower girls. And best of all, his pillow was none other than Rapunzel tower companion, Pascal.

Photo by Betsy Weldy

The photographer: Our photographer was Brendan's friend from college, Betsy Weldy (who is also groomsman Cameron's wife). She did a gorgeous job with the pictures that I have seen so far and I can't wait to see the rest. Cameron also took some official portraits and some reception portraits as well with his wife. I personally hate getting my picture taken and feel really awkward when posing for them. But Betsy did really well in making feel comfortable as well as posing us for some really great shotsThey were a great team and really easy and fun to work with.. They also make really great friends.

The caterer: An old friend of the family catered our wedding for us. Since the wedding was at 2:30, there was no need to order a big dinner (which, by the way, will save you a ton of money). We instead had snacks like fruits, veggies, chocolate fountain, sliders, crackers and cheese. Which all tasted amazing and I couldn't have asked for better wedding food.

Cutting the Cake
(Photo by Marinah Boyles)

The cake: Another friend of the family did the cake for us. She's been doing cakes for years and years, probably since before I was born. First off, it tasted amazing and it was a beautiful cake. I found it on Pinterest and together we worked out how to change it to make it work for our wedding. Best of all, I found a cake topper on Etsy that read "Best Day Ever" just like Rapunzel screams while swinging from a tree in the forest.

The rice toss: I added this just because I loved the "rice" that we had for the wedding. You can get it at Michael's Craft Store and if you need to make 100 little baggies of them, I suggest two bags of the stuff. But the rice we used was heart shaped, non harmful to birds, and dissolved in water, which meant, as soon as it rained, it was washed away. That meant we didn't have to try and sweep it all up after the wedding. The rain, the next time it came, went ahead and took care of that for us.

The send off
(Photo by Mark Morgan)

Our day was great (now that I look back on it). Yes, I tripped over the hem of my dress, a lot. Thankfully I had a reception dress to change into. Our ceremony started late because the pastor was late and at the official start time, not many people had showed. But I'm so thankful for all the ones that did. And at the end of the day, we were married. We were both sick at the end of the day too. We managed to catch some kind of flu bug and spent the first three weeks of married life sick. But, as our wedding vows say:

 

For richer, for poorer,

In sickness and in health

Until death do us part.

 



Photo by Betsy Weldy



My Daddy and Me
(Photo by Mark McGrath)



My family (l to r)
Back row: Dixie (neice), Katie, Hadassah, Netanya, Y'shua, Big Chris, Israel, Tony (Dad), Sarai
Front row: Yakira, Keturah, Rachel, Sofia, Eliana, Elizabeth (Mom)



The First Dance
(Photo by Mark Morgan)



Mess with us. We dare you
(Photo by Hadassah Goldsberry)




Margaret and Benjamin, my sweet little nephew, during the mother/son dance
(Photo by Mark Morgan)



Oh snap!
(Photo by Hadassah Goldsberry)



The opening prayer
(Photo by Mark Morgan)



The whole gang
(Photo by Hadassah Goldsberry)



Behold! Her ring!
(Photo by Hadassah Goldsberry)



OMG!!!
(Photo by Hadassah Goldsberry)



Sofia, the sweet little flower girl
(Photo by Caitlyn Maloney)



My lovely ladies
(Photo by Hadassah Goldsberry)



The first kiss
And yes, this was our very first kiss. We saved it for our wedding day
(Photo by Mark Morgan)

The Money Saving Bride: The Budget So Far

"Alive"
Photo by Robin Lear

If you've been checking back to this blog, you'll notice that I've had a sort of radio silence here for a while. And that's because, well, let's face it, as a nursing student who also was working part time and playing a lead role in a large Easter production (I played the pregnant wife of the youth group worship leader), time was a little tight and most of whatever I had to spare went to studying. So blogging took a back seat and kinda got forgotten.

But since then, my schedule has cleared significantly. I quit my job just before Easter to give myself some breathing room. And now, obviously, the Easter production is over so I'm not spending 4 days a week at the church either. So here were are (hopefully) back to regular, consistent blogging.

I thought I would take this post to give you an idea of how much we've already spent on our wedding and how much we've saved given the averages of what people normally spend on these things. Given some unforseen circumstances, I have a feeling we're going to spend a little more than we wanted on our wedding, but hopefully not too terribly much. So, here goes.

Venue
Average spent in 2010 (ceremony only): $1,393
Average spent in 2010 (reception only): $12,124
Venue for our wedding (ceremony and reception): $450
Amount saved: $13,067

Originally we were going to get married at my church, costing about $600 including the officiant's fee and a day of wedding coordinator. However, because we got engaged in December and wanted to be married in June, the dates had already all been filled. So we had to start looking elsewhere and found (kind of) a farm with a concert hall that we could use for both ceremony and reception with dates available in June. So we ended spending less than we had intended for the ceremony/reception venue.

Wedding Dress
Average spent in 2010: $1,099
Spent for our wedding: $257.94 (including shipping)
Amount saved: $841. 06

I don't even know if this can count into our budget because I've actually had the dress for a while. I found it on a discount dress site about a year ago and, with no intention of getting married any time soon, went ahead and bought because it was the dress I really wanted for my wedding.

Reception DJ:
Average spent in 2010: $900
Spent for our wedding (estimate): $375
Amount saved: $525

My children's pastor actually does DJ-ing (is that even how you spell it?) to help raise money for his children's ministry. We haven't yet secured him for the wedding, but I'm hoping I can, since it would mean a lot to me if he was our DJ.

Invitations:
Average spent in 2010: $351
Spent for our wedding: $349. 50
Amount saved: $1.50

I could not find any invitations that I liked to fit my theme (Tangled, whimsical, lanterns) and so I had asked my sister if I gave her a general idea of what I wanted if she could design them for me and then we would just have them mass printed. But then I found Wedding Paper Divas and they had a perfect design that matched both theme and color scheme. So we ended up spending a little more here than intended, but it was well worth it.

Catering:
Average spent in 2010 (cost per head) $61
Spent for our wedding (cost per head) $7
Amount saved (per head): $54

I'm using the same caterer my mom used when she remarried about five years ago (or something. I never remember the right number). The caterer has also been a friend of the family for years. That being said, to save money on catering, we skillfully plotted this one out. Our ceremony time is 2:30pm, just after lunch but far enough away from dinner so the reception time will be roughly around 3:30. This way we can just serve finger foods instead a full meal and drastically reduce the cost per head.

So in all we've saved $14,448.56 so far and, given that the average wedding costs around $26,000, I'd say we're on a roll. See you next week my lovelies!

Note: All statistics taken from TheKnot.com. Survey results can be found here.

The Money Saving Bride: Tip 4

So we finally got our venue sorted out this week-at least I hope so. It's been such a rollercoaster ride trying to figure this out. Which brings me to tip number 4-find a place where you can have both the ceremony and reception and just have the pastor come out for the ceremony. I know most people like to have theirs in a church-and that's perfectly fine. But then you also (usually) have to book a separate building (or another part of the church) for the reception for an additional fee. And that can make things more expensive.

I wanted to get married in my church because I had been born and raised there. But between dates that we wanted already being taken and the cost of things, we decided to look into other venues. My parents actually suggested a concert hall on a 135-acre farm that I had done a Christmas show in one year. I hadn't even thought to consider it. But, for $650 less than the church, we landed a building that could be used for both-all we have to do is put up the tables after the ceremony.

Now I'm not saying this option is for everybody, but it's worth a shot. They say, in all the books I have been reading, that you need to have one area in which you splurge (within your budget) and the rest you keep strictly to. The venue could be it for you but I believe if you save the money here, you could spend on something else-like oodles of flowers or the dress of your dreams.

Have a happy week everybody and I'll have another tip up for you next Monday.